The “Honey, I’ve Been There” Smile

To moms of younger children:

I have five kids, preteen and up, and I have watched many kids over the years. A screaming kid in the grocery store doesn’t phase me one bit. I’ve been there… more than once. When I go by, you might see me give you a small smile and a nod. If you notice, I’m ignoring the kid, they don’t need my attention at the moment. I’m doing this toward you. Why? Because I want you to know that I’ve been there. I’m not pitying you with that smile, I’m sending my support and encouragement. I’m saying, “I totally understand what you’re going through. You’ve got this.” I saw that smile when mine were little. At first, I was embarrassed. I thought they were laughing at me or pitying me, but then I came to realize… this is a part of motherhood and those are other moms connecting with me. It’s a small way of letting another mom know that we understand and we aren’t judging her on how her child is acting. We know that all children have times of meltdowns. They could be tired or hungry or just having an off day.

So, the next time you are having one of those shopping experiences and a woman walks by and gives you a smile and a nod. Remember… we’ve been there and we know you’ve got this!!

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Mom to 5 children, born between 1997 and 2003. I enjoy reading books, blogs, and e-mail. I collect instruments and want to learn how to play a good variety of them. I love singing, especially with my children.

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